I don't care if my cousins are reading this or what. I need to say that, my 2nd uncle's eldest son, Chuan, is a fucking bastard. You guys know that I don't usually use terms like that, if any at all, so yup, i am not using the term loosely. Look up 'fucking bastard' in the dictionary, you'll see his damned face there.

Some of you might know that my sister and I are quite close to my 2nd uncle's family. Because both my parents had to work, we used to stay with them at their house, from when I was in kindergarten all the way till maybe...P4? We'll only go back home during the weekends. And even after P4, whenever there were school holidays, we would go their house to stay, even though we were perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves. It was until I think, secondary school, that we stopped going there to stay for the holidays. But we still go for dinner at my 2nd uncle's place every Saturday. So you can guess how worried we were when my 2nd uncle had to be hospitalised last week, 'cause of breathing problems. They suspected it was TB, but thank goodness, it wasn't so serious, it was actually some chronic lung infection.

He's out of the hospital now, but there's a greater problem at hand, which is the fact that he has dementia. His short term memory is like practically non-existent now, and he can ask the same question twice in just 10 minutes. He had refused to see a doctor about it, because he dismisses it as just like, oh you know, old age, so memory will tend to be a little bad. Now that its quite obvious that its really bad, my cousins are forcing him to seek help and had arranged for an appointment with a specialist. But the thing now is that there is nobody to take care of him. Because of his poor memory, he will need someone to make sure he take his medicine correctly, in case he can't remember he needs to take medicine or if he had already taken medicine. Also, if he wanders around and cannot remember how to get home, at least there will be someone who knows where he went.

The obvious choice for his caregiver would be his wife, right? But guess what. His wife needs to take care of his elder son's kids at his elder son's place everyday. I guess it was alright when my uncle was well and everything. Since my cousin claims that both his wife and him had to work, they need my aunt to look after his 2 daughters. Nevermind that my other cousins, who are his siblings, have more kids than him, and yet they willingly stay at home to look after the kids, and the kids' fathers are okay with working a little harder to feed so many mouths. But now its like time for him to find someone else to take care of his 2 daughters, because hello, your father needs your mother, can you be less selfish and stop hogging her?! He said no, his mother has to look after his daughters. Have you seen such a self-centered person in your entire life?? And I think the reason why he wants his mother there is because she can be a free maid lor. So he can save money on child care/maid. I wonder how he will treat her when she can no longer take care of his kids. Damn.

According to his extremely warped mindset, he says that we are all too worried. He says that his father still can walk and talk, so why is everybody asking him how is he going to settle the issue? We should just wait until something really happens then decide what to do, that's what he said. Like, siao right?! When something happens it will TOO FREAKING LATE, BUDDY. When we were like, what if he goes out and nobody knows where he went, and he forgets how to go home? His reply is, aiyah, Singapore so small only, the most missing two or three days then will have policemen call us already what. So I was like, okaaay, and what if he forgets that he cannot go jogging (because of his lung infection) and he goes jogging and faints somewhere?? Must wait until he dies then you'll be happy is it? Guess what he says. He's like all, haiya he's already more than 70 years old, sure must go one day. OMG. So you're trying to say it doesn't matter if he just drops dead now?! Hello, the most you can do is to try to keep him safe right?! If we all think like you, and that 70 years old means you have lived enough and you can go anytime and don't waste my money on medical care for you, we can all go and die right now. Sure must go one day what, why not go now right. I am so angry with his selfish thoughts lah.

And in the first place, I think its him who caused his father to have dementia so quickly lor. He insisted his mother stay at his house everyday to look after the house and the kids. So there's like nobody in the house to interact with my uncle, because all his kids have to work anyway. And now even when his father needs help, he doesn't want to give it. Self-centered idiot. His kids still come first.

His siblings asked him if its possible for him to send his 2 daughters to day care centre, so that he and his wife can still work, and their mother can take care of their father. And he says nope, his 2 precious daughters won't be able to adapt at day care centre. Instead, he asks one of his siblings to send her 3 daughters to day care centre, and then she come n take care of him. So...other people's daughters can adapt lah?? His daughters more important than his father?? That's not the only thing. He keeps insisting that his other siblings are earning more than him, and so they should be the ones to take care of their father. What the fuck right. His daughters are the ones with don't know how many millions of toys at home and their clothes are bloody expensive also lah. My other cousins are all digging into their savings to make ends meet, please. Its not like people got car and can afford tuition for kids means they are rich lah. Car don't have to pay instalments ah?? Everybody has to work hard, not just you, stupid asshole.

So throughout the entire 'family meeting' this afternoon, he was just shouting at everybody and defending his point of view. Which doesn't make any sense at all. He also keeps saying that we 'kids' are trying to interfere. Hey, if you're doing something that's helping your father, we won't have to interfere can? And by the way, I think we 'kids' are more mature and have better morals than you. At least, we have a conscience. When his father was hospitalised, he didn't even show any concern please. I guess he went to visit him, but he didn't even bother asking about the condition and try to understand what's going on lah. He just thinks its nothing serious and we are all kicking a big fuss over nothing. I don't know if he is just too stupid to grasp the seriousness of it, or if he's just too selfish to think for anyone but himself. And yesterday when my uncle was discharged, everyone went to pick my uncle up and went to my uncle's place to see if he needs help with the medicine and all. My bastard cousin went SHOPPING with his family. What a wonderful son. My dad tried talking to him over the phone, but my dad got angry as it was impossible to get his point across to my cousin's thick head. It was like talking to a dummy. And then he hanged up on my dad! My father wanted to go down to the 'family meeting' and beat him up. LOL.

I had a screaming match with him at the corridor when he and his family were leaving. My sister had already left, and he was like looking for her to scold, I think. Reason being, he thinks we are interfering. Sure, its not our position to say anything, its your family matter. But we have to, because you're not even concerned about your own father, you're just taking care of yourself! You think I'm so free? I left my essays half-done and took a bus to your stupid family meeting to make sure you don't bully your own father okay. He still said stuff like, 'you all don't talk so much, if really want to do something then ask your sister to come and take care of him.' I got damn angry lah. My sister had offered to stay and take care of your father permanently, but will you feel good about that? Do you even have a conscience?? He's your own father, and you expect an outsider to take care of him? Really don't know any shame at all. I feel damn sad for his parents. And to think his father favours him over the rest. I feel sad for his wife too, for marrying a bastard. She like never think that if he can do this to his own father, he might do the same thing next time when its her parents who need help.